Vrede too wrote:I haven't had the discussion yet, not sure that I want to burn bridges. However, I suspect the response will be along the lines of the need for a safe space, shared experience and independent achievement of personal power. I'm not gonna argue with that. As Bernie says, I "don't know what it's like to be living in a ghetto." The point is about making the most capable activists out of oppressed people, not about my feelings.
Would you object to being excluded from a rape prevention group if there were other ones you could help out? What if you were excluded from just some of its meetings, which is more like the situation I'm in? Would that be blatantly sexist?
Fwiw, I was an integral part - training and 1st aid - of a large immigrant rights training put on by the same group. It's not like they've gone entirely exclusive.
Calling it "blatantly racist" is a bit extreme. It's not like I'm being denied anything that's available to others, I'm just being told in effect that my time and energy contributions will be passed on sometimes. The only case I'll make, if I bother, will be that it makes me less enthusiastic. They can then calculate whether that kind of loss (including the annual $1000 I didn't give before the holidays) is worth the other gains, and I'm fine with that.
Maybe some context as to what it is would clear things up, but if the same were to be done for, say, only rural Appalachian whites to share their experiences growing up poor, or whatever, would that be considered discriminatory, even if only on certain occasions others were to be excluded, but not all the time? I'd certainly say so.I hate to break out the ol' over-used reverse racism argument, but I still think the example is pertinent.
Excluding males from a rape prevention seminar isn't as comparable, in my opinion, as there are inherent physical differences between men and women that run deeper than skin color. I can't get pregnant, I don't have a vagina, I don't have a period and I won't go through menopause. I'm physically stronger than most (not all) women. It's typically a man doing the raping, since usually the male is the stronger of the two sexes. I'll simply never be able to know what it's like to be a woman.
Also, it's not unheard of for whites to grow up amongst minorities in poor, marginalized areas, sharing the experiences of growing up in such a community.
You aren't doing it wrong if no one knows what you are doing.